Let's talk RELATIONSHIPS.....

Relationships.
Love them or hate them? This of course, is opinion and thus, varies person to person. I personally love them. Yes, relationships have their difficulties, but what good would something be if it never endured adversity? If a relationship never has a trial then how can you know what it can take? How do you learn? Certainly not from what you already know. Therefore, the “hate” comes from the arguments, the disagreements, and the likes. Then there are those situations when hate shows up because something slipped though the pre-screening, and now one relationship after the other seems to fail. This does not mean relationships are bad, just means you need a new screen.

Okay, now there are some Do’s and Don’ts in relationships and if you are careful when following these, you are SURE to avoid some bumps along the way.

#1!—Under NO circumstance should you EVER settle! No matter how bleak the road looks, you will be more upset at the fact you settled for Mr./Mrs. I-ain’t-goin’-no-where-in-life-but-I-have-an-okay-job, then working and/or waiting for that wonder Lady Love or Hunk of Burning Love.

#2—DO NOT EVER go into a relationship still comparing!! This will just lead to unnecessary confusion and we all know there can be more than enough of this because of feelings and emotions. If you are not over and past Mr./Mrs. Previous, then do NOT move forward.

#3—DO NOT simply lead someone on when you know the other is feeling more than a mere fling. He or she may be upset because of a let down, but better to do it early on than 3-4 years down the road. Not following this rule is how we get slashed tires, busted windows, bleached clothing, fights, and jail time. Let us avoid this, shall we?

#4—DO NOT EVER under any circumstance, tell Mr. or Mrs. Current how much they suck compared to something you have had before. Itching for a fight? You got one now.

#5—DO inform Mr. or Mrs. Current of any “major” or umm, “prior” illnesses you may have had or currently have. Telling does not automatically make you exempt, just be sure to tell early on….

#6—BE SURE to communicate; and I am not just talking, “Babe, I’m working from 9 to 3 today”. Share your feelings and be FAIR during these conversations. Misunderstandings can sometimes be the worst.

#7—BE OPEN AND OPTOMISTIC. Everyone is different. Just because he prefers to wash his face THEN get in the shower does not make him “weird”. And hey, she may like A1 sauce on here mac ‘n cheese. SO WHAT?! If you are not going to try it, fine, but you do not have to down their preferences.

#8—DO NOT HOVER!! Either let them do it, or do it yourself. Period.
#9—DO compliment. This goes both ways. No matter how macho a guy may be, he likes being told he looks nice, and we all know women live, breathe, and feed off water, food, and compliments (and yes, an occasional pair of shoes).

#10—DO NOT assume everything has to go your way. There are two minds in this relationship. Please be conscious and considerate of this.

#11—NEVER demean manhood and NEVER demean woman’s intuition. God placed these; do not question it.

#12—DO remember to spend time with your significant others. Guys, do not expect a girl to say, “Hey, spend time with me”, because this is one of those understood things. Ladies, do not expect a guy to say, “Hey, I’ve been working all day, can you cook something”; once again, an expected action. Be conscious and thoughtful of one another.

There are more and I am sure we could create an endless list of what should and should not be done in a relationship, but the point is to simply be thoughtful and considerate of one another. Do not base all relationships on the result or turnout of one past. Be open-minded, live, love and be happy!

Be thoughtful—it just may save your relationship.