A different view

Women often complain that men are not understanding; too physical, empty or dense thinkers, shallow, as well as superficial.

They are not understanding individuals because “they just don’t get” what we mean, are not willing to comply, or seem to brush off our issue as something small. Then they are considered too physical because “all they ever notice” is the physical aspects of a woman. “She’s got great eyes, perfect, all white, straight smile, she’s proportionate in every way imaginable, she dresses perfectly, up-to-date, perfect complexion, nails always done, perfect, hair, yada, yada, yada”.

Next, they’re either empty-headed or too dense to ever “get” anything. We consider them empty if they do not relate at all to what we are talking about, if they can’t give us a direct answer or way to fix something, or if they seem to focus on only one thing. Men are dense if they make repetitive mistakes and we just can’t figure out why; if they give us the same response more than twice, or if they can’t or don’t complete a task the way WE want it done. Women consider men shallow if their focus is on something other than “gettin’ money”. I suppose men should not be attracted to games, intimacy, sports, or the other likes pertaining to MANhood.
Last but not least, men are stereotyped as superficial if they prefer a woman with a job, career goals, plans, her own money, bank account, car, style, mind, and such. A man is dubbed as superficial for being attracted to these things thus his being labeled as shallow, too physical, and empty. Talk about domino effect!

WOW!!! Now how fair is this? How on earth are men not considered as understanding? Sure there are those ruthless guys our there who really are not concerned with a woman’s thoughts and/or feelings, but there are those who genuinely are. What we women FAIL at UNDERSTANDING ourselves, is that God made man different from woman. If he thought the same as we did, how would problems become solved? If he chose to sob and cry every time we did, what kind of help would he be to us? Furthermore, we women KNOW we can switch up on what we want and expect; gotta give men their credit for always attempting to keep up with our demands.

Next, we women know we enjoy to be noticed. We want a man to notice our looks, our shape, our clothes, our assets, but if he is “too physical” how can he do this? If a man is rejected every time he compliments, first, what he sees, then what do we expect him to do? On the flip side, we women KNOW we are known for rejecting a guy simply because he doesn’t have those hazel eyes, chiseled chest, perfect style, or breath-taking smile. Men are too physical? Now, onto how men think. As stated earlier, they are made different from women, thus thought patterns are not the same. Women, we can be quite empty and shallow ourselves for wanting a man solely for his good looks, money, and status. And how many times do you think men become frustrated because we don’t understand them? Ladies, if you want someone to respond the same as you, call up your girlfriend and have her cry with you. Then when you’re finished, go back to your man and continue the conversation. Women can also be dense in the mind because sometimes, we only see things from our perspective. We become clouded with our perception that we shut out any and everything else.

And last but not least, women are the queens of being superficial. If a man loses his job and that bothers him, we automatically begin nagging, call him worthless, lazy and our attraction for him drops. Funny, if a many does this, he is just all our wrong. If he doesn’t dress the same or smell the same, or doesn’t do any other physical thing we could fathom, we become upset. Yet men are too superficial?

In conclusion, I would just like to state that the best way for a relationship or bond to last is to allow that other person to be themselves. Yes men are quirky, but goodness, we women are too. I bet if we stopped focusing on any and every stereotype, we’d be happier as individuals, friends, and couples. Sometimes his changing jobs, is best. Sometimes it’s good for him to express that he likes to see you in A-line, pleated skirts that stop just below your knee, or that he likes when you wear your hair down. That is not being too physical; that’s him telling you what he likes….thus his attention remaining on you!

We should be careful to not become too critical because in doing so we push away the ones we love, as well as those who love us. Both men and women are imperfect in their respective ways. Stop judging books by their cover and instead, read them. Stop living according to stereotype, but according to the real type.

Women, men are different. SO WHAT?!